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A Dozen Ways to Have a Great Valentine’s Day Despite Divorce

A Dozen Ways to Have a Great Valentine’s Day Despite Divorce

Just because you’re dealing with divorce doesn’t mean Valentine’s Day has to be gloomy. Nope, it doesn’t.

Yes, celebrations of love can remind you of your loss and it is important to process that loss. Yet, there are things you can do to make your Valentine’s Day happy.

No, I’m not crazy.

Here are 12 tips for celebrating Valentine’s Day as a divorced or divorcing person…

Give yourself some loving. Yes, you. Pamper yourself.
Make a list of your blessings. It may sound corny but making a list of your blessings reminds you that you are in fact blessed in so many ways. Thank God […]

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Divorce: 3 Tips for Dealing with Your Ex or Soon-to-Be Ex

Divorce: 3 Tips for Dealing with Your Ex or Soon-to-Be Ex

How to best deal with your ex or soon-to-be ex during separation and divorce depends a lot on you, your ex, and the circumstances of your divorce. Relationships can vary from cooperative to extremely antagonistic. Communications may be business-like, hostile, badgering or even nonexistent.

Whatever the nature of your relationship with your spouse, here are three tips that can help.

1. Mind Your Motives. A lot of feelings are flying around during divorce. Resentment, anger, and revenge can take hold of your behavior unless you find a way to work through those emotions. (I’ll be posting more on dealing with […]

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The Power in Your Thoughts

The Power in Your Thoughts

We all do it. We talk to ourselves. Maybe not out loud but we have a continuous conversation with ourselves through our thoughts.

I’m not talking about what to have for dinner or what movie to see. I’m talking about the thoughts that color how we see the world and ourselves–our beliefs about God, our own value, and our thoughts about other people.  And particularly, our thoughts about our divorce.

We send ourselves powerful messages. Our thoughts can fill us with self-doubt and fear or lift us with confidence and faith. What we think determines whether we walk in the light […]

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What to Do When a Child Rejects One Parent

What to Do When a Child Rejects One Parent

Anna spoke quietly in the Peace after Divorce group at her church…

My son doesn’t speak to me since we separated. He lives in my house but doesn’t want anything to do with me. He wants to go live with his dad. He says he hates me.

Layered on top of the pain and grief of divorce, Anna is now facing the rejection of her son. Not a simple issue.  Being rejected by a child can leave a parent feeling desperate and totally out of control.

Recognizing the Problem

Like an adult, a child faces many adjustments as the result of separation and […]

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How Can Your Soon-to-Be Ex Just Erase You?

How Can Your Soon-to-Be Ex Just Erase You?

You hurt…

It’s hard to let go of all the memories. Flashbacks of your life together keep the memories fresh in your mind. You find yourself longing for your marriage to be what you envisioned it to be when you took your vows.

But then there’s your soon-to-be-ex (STBX)…

How can the person who vowed to love you for eternity act like you don’t have a past together? How can he just act like you don’t matter to him? How can he be so okay with all of this when you are hurting so much inside?

The difference between what you […]

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A Dozen Ways to Have a Great Valentine’s Day Despite Divorce

A Dozen Ways to Have a Great Valentine’s Day Despite Divorce

Just because you’re dealing with divorce doesn’t mean Valentine’s Day has to be gloomy. Nope, it doesn’t.

Yes, celebrations of love can remind you of your loss and it is important to process that loss. Yet, there are things you can do to make your Valentine’s Day happy.

No, I’m not crazy.

Here are 12 tips for celebrating Valentine’s Day as a divorced or divorcing person…

Give yourself some loving. Yes, you. Pamper yourself.
Make a list of your blessings. It may sound corny but making a list of your blessings reminds you that you are in fact blessed in so many ways. Thank God […]

Read more

7 Ways to Squash Fear in Separation and Divorce

7 Ways to Squash Fear in Separation and Divorce

Nothing is quite as fear provoking as instability combined with an unknown future.  And isn’t that the story of separation and divorce–at least for a while.  But fear doesn’t have to get the best of you.  Here are seven steps you can take to harness fear in your life.

Squash the Power of Fear

1.  Acknowledge that feeling fear is normal.  Change is stressful for most people.  Major life changes even more so.  You’re not going crazy just because separation and divorce have created fear for you.

2.  Make a list of your top fears.  Well now doesn’t that […]

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How Do I Make Him (or Her) Come Back?

How Do I Make Him (or Her) Come Back?

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
1 Peter 5:6-7 NIV

I’ve pleaded with him to stop his relationship with the other woman,” said Patty. “He just won’t.”

“She’s left,” said Tom. “I’ve prayed that she would come back. I’ve asked God to make her. She said she needs to find herself. That was a year ago. Now she doesn’t even respond to my texts or calls.”

“I just cannot continue to take the abuse,” said Caroline. “He neglects us and spends […]

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More than Turkeys: The Power of Thanksgiving

More than Turkeys: The Power of Thanksgiving

When life is falling apart from separation and divorce what’s there to be thankful for?

I mean really?

Try this…

Be thankful that God has a plan to give you hope and a future…
‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’  Jeremiah 29:11

Be thankful that the Lord is your refuge…
Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the man who takes refuge in him. Psalm 34:8

Be thankful that you can receive guidance from the Lord…
Trust in the LORD with all […]

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Healing from Divorce: Are Your Thoughts Holding You Back?

Healing from Divorce: Are Your Thoughts Holding You Back?

Running around in your head are all the conversations you have with yourself—your thoughts. These are perhaps the most important conversations you ever have. Why? Because your thoughts color how you perceive the world and therefore loom large in determining how you deal with your divorce.

Your thoughts about separation and divorce, being single, your ex, the circumstances related to your divorce, and even your thoughts about God have a monumental impact on your ability to heal from divorce. Thoughts can limit you or set you on a positive course. Think about it. In fact, think about […]

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