Just before Christmas several years ago I was given the word that my first marriage was about to end. “Joy to the World” wasn’t exactly my first holiday sentiment. I was devastated.
Frankly, I did not want to be around happy people. My grief was too profound. Yet in the end, it turned out to be a blessing. The gathering of family and friends proved to be my soft place to land at a time I desperately needed comfort.
Holidays, especially those associated with traditions, have a crazy way of magnifying our losses. Blues can set in because of expectations, lost traditions, […]
When your marriage has been a big part of your purpose in life you may feel useless or at least question your purpose when your marriage ends. An emptiness of purpose saps your energy and steals your joy.
You do have a purpose! God made you to be in relationship with him and he wants to empower you with purpose.
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Finding Purpose in Your Life
It’s in Christ that we find out […]
Dark skies and gray days leave us longing for the warmth and light of the sun. Too much time without the sun can leave us feeling down if not depressed. Likewise, the spin-off of divorce can color our days dark and gray leaving us feeling like we are in a constant shadow, hidden from the sun.
We cannot control all of the effects of divorce any more than we can control the weather. Things often just do not go our way. But how often do we choose to live in darkness when we could be walking in the light? How do […]
If only your ex had been true. If only your ex had not lied. If only your ex had not…
But, your ex did.
One of the hard things about divorce is coming to terms with the truth of the situation and not letting it make you bitter for the rest of your life. It is normal to get angry, to feel hurt, and even to feel resentment when you’ve just been hurt or deceived. We blame those we feel are responsible for our hurt. Those emotions are a part of the “human” that God put in us.
For a while those emotions […]
I’m totally humbled by the story that Sandra shared about her experiences. I remember feeling paralyzed too. Here is what she says…
I definitely benefited from the Peace After Divorce Workshop and Divorce Support Group. Before attending the workshop I felt paralyzed – like I could not move forward – like I was in quicksand. After reading the first chapter of the book, Peace After Divorce, I had to face the reality of my situation. I was in the middle of a divorce.
This was very hard for me to swallow – especially since I did not want a divorce. Your book […]
Sharon feels she is doing okay with her divorce but she is beside herself over her husband’s neglect of their children. Conner says his biggest struggle is seeing how his wife’s leaving has hurt their children. “I’ll never forgive her for what she did to them by deserting them,” he says.
What do you do? You see your children saddened by their other parent’s absence. It breaks your heart but no matter what you say to your ex, things don’t change. Or maybe the other parent is totally absent.
It feels like a no-win situation. You know […]