My ex is already dating and he wants to introduce our children to this new woman. I don’t want her to have anything to do with my children,” says Katie.
Katie’s ex-husband Tom is moving on with his new life and that new life includes a new woman. Katie finds being replaced so easily to be infuriating. She also has a myriad of fears about Tom’s new girlfriend becoming a part of the lives of her children.
Anger and fear shake Katie to the core. She isn’t prepared for this part of the reality of divorce. How dare he want to […]
When people say, “I just want to stay friends with my ex,” I assume they are well-intended. But is it a good idea? I’m not so sure.
Three Reasons People Want to Stay Friends with Their Ex
They think it is best for the children.
They still love their ex.
They still view their ex as their best friend.
Do you see yourself in that list?
Let’s take a look at each of these reasons to see what makes staying friends a questionable idea.
We Need to Stay Friends for the Children
Actually, you do best to stay cordial to one another. Being […]
Are you concerned about how your divorce will impact your kids? It’s a legitimate concern. How will they handle it? Will divorce leave scars?
Insights to Help You Help Your Children
Research shared by a group of students at John Brown University comes in handy today. They interviewed a divorced couple as well as their three children (now adults) regarding their reflections on the personal impact of a divorce that occurred 12 years ago.
To help you benefit the most, I’ve inserted key points into the story in brackets. So, let’s see what we can glean from one family’s story.
Christmas is less than a month away and I’m anxious. It’s supposed to be such a great time for children but now things are different. How do I handle this? How do I make Christmas merry for my children?
Make a Personal Commitment
Set aside your divorce-related issues or squabbles with your ex even if that person is contrary.
Kids feel tensions between their parents.
Focus on ways to work with the kids’ other parent to make Christmas as smooth and happy as possible for your children. You may have to grit your teeth to do it if the other person is […]
Kids have a great capacity for joy. Kids also need security and routine. The changes of separation or divorce may leave kids conflicted about whether it is okay to be joyful at Christmas. Their sense of security may be rattled by the unknown as familiar traditions are necessarily impacted by separation and divorce.
Yet children are amazingly resilient. With a little help from you your kids can still find joy in Christmas. Here are three things to help you help put the “Merry” in your children’s Christmas after separation or divorce.
1. KEEP SOME TRADITIONS AND […]
Divorce changes things including Christmas celebrations. You can help your children to adjust. Here are three suggestions you may wish to consider.
1. HELP CHILDREN WITH TRANSITIONS. If this is your first Christmas apart, realize that the kids may wonder if Christmas will ever be jolly again. In the busyness of Christmas, be sure to be aware of their emotions and stressors. Address them upfront. Reassure kids that even though this Christmas may be different, you will get through this transition together. You can be a positive model for how to deal with sadness during the holidays. Keep your focus on […]
How do I help my kids have a good Christmas when the family is split? asked a worried parent.
You can keep the merry in Merry Christmas for the kids even if you and their other parent are at odds. You cannot control the behavior of their other parent but here are some suggestions for working with your children’s other parent as the Christmas holidays approach.
MAKE CHRISTMAS ABOUT THE KIDS rather than about your divorce-related issues or squabbles. The question is, “how can I work with their other parent to make Christmas as smooth and happy as possible for our children?” […]