4 Myths about Divorce that Can Hurt Your Church – Part 2 of 4 in the Series
When a person is facing divorce, it is so easy to tell them to turn to prayer. And we should. There’s no better time for ceaseless prayer than during times of trouble.
But, the simple directive that, “You just need to pray more and God will save your marriage,” falls short. Plus, what if you pray, and pray, and pray and God doesn’t save your marriage? What then?
Now, don’t get me wrong, I am a huge believer in the power of prayer. Prayer builds […]
If you could only see where I used to live and where I live now that he kicked me out of his house. My budget is so tight and paying the bills is a challenge. I’m miserable and it is his fault.”
Carol’s eyes flood with tears and her voice weakens to a whimper. Carol sees no way out and she is angry. Her ex is a louse.
She had been a faithful wife. Her situation is undesirable and she has a right to be angry. Yet in the face of her reality, Carol is blinded.
It’s understandable that Carol blames her ex. […]
The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save.
He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.
Zephaniah 3:17 NIV
When you’re going through divorce you feel you don’t fit in anywhere,” says Jean Henderson. “You are neither single nor a part of a couple.”
If you’re going through or have been through a divorce, you know what Jean is talking about.
I call this Limbo Land–the awkward time and state of being between separation and divorce.
In Limbo Land, the reality of […]
Gut-wrenching, devastating, sickening–such are the words that describe divorce. Anger, fear, rejection, disappointment, confusion and loneliness can be so overwhelming that you wonder if they will ever go away. The heart hopes for healing but questions whether a wound so deep can ever heal.
What Can You Do to Make the Pain Go Away?
Marriage intertwines two lives which makes it understandably difficult to unravel. This is especially true if you still want your marriage to work. But, are there things you can do to make the pain go away?
I say YES! I can tell you this as a living testimony.
I’ve been […]
Is healing from divorce possible? Some say no. I say yes.
An article I recently read sure rattled me.
From what I could tell, the purpose of the article was to encourage the reader not to consider divorce as a solution to marital problems. No problem there. I agree that commitment to working through difficult issues and coming out on the other side together is both rewarding and a part of growing together.
Divorce isn’t an easy solution. I agree with that. Life after divorce can be fraught with new challenges. Many who think they want a divorce change their mind when […]
Really, you should be over him by now,” said a friend. “You know he wasn’t good for you. You know you’re better off without him. Get over it.”
“It’s only been seven months,” said Debbie. “AUGH!!!!!!!!”
Debbie’s friend doesn’t get it.
Have people told you that you should be over your divorce? Does it make you feel like they think there is something wrong with you? I’m sure it doesn’t make you feel understood.
Five Things They Don’t Get
Emotions don’t turn off with the flick of a switch.
Legal divorce doesn’t automatically mean emotional divorce.
Divorce isn’t black and white—it’s complicated.
It is smart to guard […]
I remember feeling like my life was over. I struggled to absorb the impact of the word divorce as its reality crashed in and rippled throughout my whole life. If you’ve been there you know what I mean.
My life wasn’t over…no, far from it.
Neither is yours.
Your pain is real. Your frustrations understandable. Your circumstances probably less than desirable.
But your life IS NOT over. You have a future!
You’re more than your marriage. Being married becomes a part of your identity but it isn’t who you are. God has instilled in you a unique package of wonderful traits. I am certain […]
When the waters of uncertainty rise in your life due to divorce, you don’t have to drown. No matter how bad things get or how confusing, you can keep your head above water. You may even learn to get out of the boat and “walk on water” despite your current circumstances.
6 Life Preserving Steps
Learn – Learn all you can about dealing with and healing from divorce. Learn all you can about God. Find resources and people to help you learn.
Ponder – Reflect on what you learn and the patterns you see in your life. What do YOU see you need […]
Believe It or Not…You Really CAN Heal!
With prayerful intent you can move forward and heal from divorce. One step at a time, one day at a time. You won’t forget the past but it can lose its emotional power in your life.
If you want to heal from divorce…
Know that it is possible for you to heal
Believe God has “plans to give you a hope and a future”
Decide you will do the work to heal from divorce
Believe God will empower you to do that work
Taking charge of your life with God’s guidance can move you to a place where your divorce […]
Where do you live?
Not your city and state…where do you live in your heart and mind?
It’s a question worth considering. Why? Because you have the power to choose where your heart and mind live. And where you live in your heart and mind determines your degree of peace and joy.
Life in a Mud Puddle
Divorce changes many things often stirring insecurities and fears. It is just a fact. You’re bound to pass through times of grief and sadness.
Negative thoughts, doubts, and worries happen and need to be thought through. The challenge lies in passing through the down times rather than drowning […]