Divorce can be lonely. You may feel like no one really understands what you are going through. Worse yet, you may feel like nobody really cares. Even God may seem far away.
It’s tough and the pain is so personal.
The mere words of others can seem trite and shallow even when they are intended to comfort. You need the support of those who really get it. You need reinforcements to help you feel like you are not so alone and to help you see that the pain you feel can be healed. You need reassurance that while the scars may linger, […]
When the waters of uncertainty rise in your life due to divorce, you don’t have to drown. No matter how bad things get or how confusing, you can keep your head above water. You may even learn to get out of the boat and “walk on water” despite your current circumstances.
6 Life Preserving Steps
Learn – Learn all you can about dealing with and healing from divorce. Learn all you can about God. Find resources and people to help you learn.
Ponder – Reflect on what you learn and the patterns you see in your life. What do YOU see you need […]
Running around in your head are all the conversations you have with yourself—your thoughts. These are perhaps the most important conversations you ever have. Why? Because your thoughts color how you perceive the world and therefore loom large in determining how you deal with your divorce.
Your thoughts about separation and divorce, being single, your ex, the circumstances related to your divorce, and even your thoughts about God have a monumental impact on your ability to heal from divorce. Thoughts can limit you or set you on a positive course. Think about it. In fact, think about […]
Maggie’s anxiety rang throughout our conversation. She had reached a low point. Weary and worn from her husband’s antagonistic behavior she was beginning to wonder how much more she could take. She said she knew God was with her but sometimes it was hard to feel his presence. She felt very alone in her struggles. Divorce can be like that.
“Who will protect me from the wicked?” asks Psalms 94:16. “Who will stand up for me against evildoers?”
The Psalmist felt much the same as Maggie. They both hit a lonely low and wanted to be rescued. Yet despite a sense of […]
Click. Gone. The unwanted email instantly deleted.
When your spouse leaves, either physically or psychologically, you can feel much the same-unwanted, unvalued, and deleted. The departure may be sudden and leave you reeling and wondering if you are still lovable. Or, you may have experienced a long fading loss of love and attention. Any of these experiences can leave you questioning your worth.
Such rejection is a tough pill to swallow. It can take a while of constantly re-framing your experience to overcome the depth of rejection that occurs when the person you’ve pledged your life to rejects you.
Let me tell you […]
Really, healing from divorce takes guts. I never thought about it that way until looking at the name of the company that built our new website which is in fact, No Guts, No Glory.
Guts. It takes guts to pick up the pieces of your life and move forward. It takes guts to work through the emotions rather than stuffing them inside. It takes guts to decide you will not let your divorce define who you are. It takes guts to deal with your ex in a way that does not have negative spin-off on you or your children. And it […]