4 Myths about Divorce that Can Hurt Your Church – Part 4 of 4 in the Series
We know God can do immeasurably more than we hope or imagine. We know it because we’ve lived it. So, when a person is facing divorce, our natural faith-driven instinct is to highlight this truth of the Christian faith. Because we know the power of God, we can be quick to assume that the person who is accepting divorce as their reality simply hasn’t given God time to work, or believed hard enough in God’s faithfulness.
You don’t have enough faith, we think or say.
For David it was subtle. People at his church didn’t come right out and say it, but he could feel the difference and see it in their eyes. They were more aloof. Because of his divorce he felt treated differently. He already felt like a failure so this undercurrent in his relationship with people at church was a reaffirmation that he was now stigmatized. He was perceived as a lower level Christian.
For Sarah it was much more direct. The words stabbed at her heart. She could no longer serve in certain areas of the church because she was divorced. She […]
4 Myths about Divorce that Can Hurt Your Church – Part 2 of 4 in the Series
When a person is facing divorce, it is so easy to tell them to turn to prayer. And we should. There’s no better time for ceaseless prayer than during times of trouble.
But, the simple directive that, “You just need to pray more and God will save your marriage,” falls short. Plus, what if you pray, and pray, and pray and God doesn’t save your marriage? What then?
Now, don’t get me wrong, I am a huge believer in the power of prayer. Prayer builds […]
You know God means for marriage to last forever. You know your marriage has fallen short of God’s perfect plan. Yet, here you are looking your own divorce square in the face. It’s a gut wrenching experience. Worse yet, you may be getting grief from fellow Christians who don’t understand what you’re going through at all.
Here are three things I want to be sure you know:
God still loves you!
Your identity is in Christ not your marital status.
God still offers you salvation and hope.
Building your relationship with God is fundamental to taking charge of your life again. Choosing to seek God […]
I never consciously thought about it until now. But, deep in my heart I realize I’ve been wondering if my divorce lowers me in God’s eyes. I feel like a failure so surely God must see me as a failure too.”
As a Christian, you know that divorce is not what God wants for your marriage. Divorce is not to be taken lightly. Marriages are designed by God as a life-time covenant.
But, do you need to hang your head around God? Are you second-rate in his eyes? Does he frown when he looks your way?
I contend that God’s love for you […]
The pain of having your marriage end is like none other. The death of your marriage is a source of grief but the person you were married to is still alive. Your marital relationship is over but if your have children, your relationship with the person is not over–it is redefined.
Yes, the pain is like none other. The pain is especially deep if you tried and tried to keep your marriage alive but your spouse didn’t. Nobody should have to experience the pain of divorce.
Nobody wants to hurt. Yet, in your pain you are open for something […]
The pain and confusion of divorce rocks your world. You’ve been praying with all your heart for your marriage. God seems to be ignoring you.
When a marriage has disintegrated here are some of the prayers people say depending on their circumstances:
Make my spouse come home.
Make my spouse want to make our marriage work.
Make my spouse stop_____. (Gambling, using drugs, drinking too much, or looking at porn.)
Turn my spouse back into somebody who loves me.
Make my spouse stop the affair and return to me.
Make my spouse spend more time with our children.
Make my spouse willing to go […]
I know divorce is tough but God will not put more on you than you can handle.
God allowed you to go through divorce because he has something better for you.
Being in this difficult situation caused by your divorce is a part of God’s plan for you.
Putting you through these trials is God’s way of making you stronger.
So many times I’ve heard statements like these. They are well-intended and meant to console. But are they true?
Personally, I don’t believe so.
I get it that they are saying God is all powerful. Agreed.
I also get […]
Are you feeling weary from separation and divorce?
Divorce can wear you out. It can zap all your strength and leave you discouraged and lonely. Emotions and conflicts weigh you down like a wet blanket laid on top of daily responsibilities.
It is easy to feel afraid, hopeless, and alone.
Your most powerful resource is just three words away. “God help me.”
When you are at your wit’s end,
When you are seeking direction,
When you are facing conflict with your soon-to-be-ex…
God help me!”
When your heart is sick with grief, know that God is the great physician.
How to Talk with God about […]
Divorce is lonely. Reaching out to support one another is important. Knowing you’re not alone in your experiences helps. Furthermore, hearing from others who have found strength and joy after divorce can give you hope. These are the reasons we offer readers a chance to tell their story. Please feel free to offer words of support to the person who shared this story by leaving a comment below this post. To share your story, click the “Share Your Story” button on the right of this page.
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