Dealing with your ex or soon-to-be ex can be a headache. Generally, you can’t “fix” that person to your liking. If you could do that, you’d probably still be married.
What you can do is gain some peace of mind by changing how you think about your ex. Your thoughts can color your emotions as well as determine your actions. Fortunately, you can choose thoughts that help you deal with your ex and that support healing from divorce.
Here are ten thoughts you can choose to get more peace of mind.
My former spouse’s choices don’t need to make sense to me.
An emotional […]
Over and over again I pleaded with God to save my marriage. Why didn’t he?”
It seems logical. If marriage is designed by God as a life-time covenant and you pray wholeheartedly for God to save your marriage, why wouldn’t he? It may make it seem like God doesn’t really care.
So, what gives?
Consider these five points:
God didn’t cause your divorce. When God doesn’t intervene and force your spouse to want to work out your marriage, it can seem like God deserted you. Divorce can seem like God’s fault because he failed to do what you asked. God never causes divorce […]
I’d like to know when the pain will end,” said Sean. “How long does it take to heal from divorce?”
It would be grand to say, “Oh just ride it out for 6 months and you’ll feel fine.” It’s not nearly that simple.
The good news is…you can heal from divorce.
How long your journey will be depends a lot on you. Perhaps these four questions will help.
Are you actively seeking to learn how to cope with and heal from divorce?
Are you building a support network for healing from divorce?
Do you have a “make-it-happen” mentality?
Are you willing to work through the pain […]
I remember feeling like my life was over. I struggled to absorb the impact of the word divorce as its reality crashed in and rippled throughout my whole life. If you’ve been there you know what I mean.
My life wasn’t over…no, far from it.
Neither is yours.
Your pain is real. Your frustrations understandable. Your circumstances probably less than desirable.
But your life IS NOT over. You have a future!
You’re more than your marriage. Being married becomes a part of your identity but it isn’t who you are. God has instilled in you a unique package of wonderful traits. I am certain […]
When the waters of uncertainty rise in your life due to divorce, you don’t have to drown. No matter how bad things get or how confusing, you can keep your head above water. You may even learn to get out of the boat and “walk on water” despite your current circumstances.
6 Life Preserving Steps
Learn – Learn all you can about dealing with and healing from divorce. Learn all you can about God. Find resources and people to help you learn.
Ponder – Reflect on what you learn and the patterns you see in your life. What do YOU see you need […]