All night long on my bed, I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves. So I looked for him but did not find him.
Song of Songs 3: 1-2 (NIV)
These words from Song of Songs (Song of Solomon) are about love not divorce. Yet, I think they say so much. Love makes the heart do both wonderful as well as crazy things.
When we lose […]
When the one you’ve loved and relied on is permanently gone due to divorce it leaves a void that can burn a hole in your heart. Do you know what I’m talking about? Finding someone to feel that emptiness can become a focus in your life.
And then you meet him. He seems perfect. Best of all, he seems to like you too.
He’s everything you wanted. Or is he? Maybe, maybe not.
When you need someone to make you feel whole it is way too easy to see what you want to see and to put blinders on to what you […]
When your marriage has ended you can find yourself with many unknowns including the future of romance in your life. Perhaps you are happy with your freedom and will choose to remain single. Yet, a burning question for many people is…
Will I be alone the rest of my life or will I marry again?”
Given our human desire to be loved this is a natural question.
You may be pondering thoughts such as these…
How can I find a good marriage partner?
Who will fill the void in my life?
How can I find someone who makes me happy?
How do I avoid getting involved with […]
Last week we talked about whether Christians can marry after divorce. I hope you gained some insight from that article. But are you really ready to jump into a new romantic relationship?
Whether you’re already dating or contemplating dating, it’s scary isn’t it?
Well, because you are my blog reader I want to give you some free insights directly from my book, Peace after Divorce.
The questions below are written with the assumption you are already dating someone but they are worth pondering whether you’re already dating or just thinking about re-entering […]
Chemistry wasn’t my strong suit. I do remember the little slips of litmus paper that were used as a test to determine the pH balance of a liquid. Those magic little strips turn red when a solution is acidic and blue when the solution is alkaline. If the paper is purple, the solution is neutral. Just like that, you know what you’re dealing with.
What I have for you today is a GREAT litmus test that I believe you would do well to use before you start to date after divorce, or now if you’re already dating. It is not the […]
The title of the old song, Gimme Some Lovin’ seems to fit the feeling that often comes during separation and divorce. Emptiness, loneliness, and a haunting question about whether or not we are still loveable can give us the strong urge to find love. I call it the “Empty Love Pot.”
If we can find someone to love us then we can fill the loneliness. We can reassure ourselves that we are indeed still loveable. We can be happy.
It’s a natural way to feel wouldn’t you agree? We want to heal the loss by finding a replacement. […]