For me one of the worse things about separation and divorce was feeling like I failed. Marriage means so much to me. Yet, I felt like I failed my marriage, failed my vows, failed myself, failed my family, and failed God. I felt lower than I had ever felt in my life. Do you find yourself feeling that way?
For Christians marriage is more than a legal arrangement, it is a covenant. Feelings of failure when a marriage ends can be overwhelming.
But here’s the kicker…If you allow yourself to go through life seeing yourself as […]
How to best deal with your ex or soon-to-be ex during separation and divorce depends a lot on you, your ex, and the circumstances of your divorce. Relationships can vary from cooperative to extremely antagonistic. Communications may be business-like, hostile, badgering or even nonexistent.
Whatever the nature of your relationship with your spouse, here are three tips that can help.
1. Mind Your Motives. A lot of feelings are flying around during divorce. Resentment, anger, and revenge can take hold of your behavior unless you find a way to work through those emotions. (I’ll be posting more on dealing with […]
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Life was so stressful that I seemed to live with my fists clenched. It was how my body dealt with the tension. I knew I had the habit but still often found myself clenching my fists.
Divorce can do that to you. (As can so many things in life.)
I mentioned it to a pastor friend. He looked at his hand and clenched his fist just as he could see me clinching mine. “You’re not meant to go through life like this,” he said.
Slowly, he lifted his hands and opened his fingers palms up. He looked down at his palms and then […]
When life is falling apart from separation and divorce what’s there to be thankful for?
I mean really?
Be thankful that God has a plan to give you hope and a future…
‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ Jeremiah 29:11
Be thankful that the Lord is your refuge…
Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the man who takes refuge in him. Psalm 34:8
Be thankful that you can receive guidance from the Lord…
Trust in the LORD with all […]
Your heart smiles as you look at your children’s innocent sleeping faces. Your heart breaks as you wonder how the adult decision to separate and divorce will be dealt with by your off-spring. How they will handle your divorce is one of your greatest anxieties.
When two adults divorce, their children are affected no matter the kid’s ages. I’ll save talking about adult children for another post. Today let’s talk about parenting children of divorce who still live at home.
Fear and worry about the well-being of your children is understandable. As you deal with changes yourself you are probably acutely aware […]
Vampires, ghosts, and goblins. Halloween is full of spooky images intent on putting a shiver in your timbers. But the shiver-me-timbers fears of Hollywood and trick-or-treat all pale in comparison to the multitude of heart-felt fears that can come with separation and divorce.
Changes and uncertainties rock your world. The future is unknown. Finances change. Concerns over living life alone or over single parenting are intensified by the sense of loss and self-doubt that come with divorce.
Divorce-related fear is real, understandable, and natural. Divorce is scary but you don’t have to let the monster of fear take over. You can […]
Chemistry wasn’t my strong suit. I do remember the little slips of litmus paper that were used as a test to determine the pH balance of a liquid. Those magic little strips turn red when a solution is acidic and blue when the solution is alkaline. If the paper is purple, the solution is neutral. Just like that, you know what you’re dealing with.
What I have for you today is a GREAT litmus test that I believe you would do well to use before you start to date after divorce, or now if you’re already dating. It is not the […]
Marriage is intended by God to be a loving relationship. When one partner becomes abusive it can totally shatter trust and may even become life threatening. Safety becomes a priority. Abuse takes many forms.
Domestic violence is a complicated issue. People who are involved in a domestic violence relationship, either as the abused or the abuser, can benefit by seeking help from those who are knowledgeable about domestic violence.
If You Have Been Abused or Wonder if Your Experiences Constitute Domestic Violence–The National Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached at 1-800-799-7233. They offer confidential help and referrals. You may visit their website […]
When your marriage has been a big part of your purpose in life you may feel useless or at least question your purpose when your marriage ends. An emptiness of purpose saps your energy and steals your joy.
You do have a purpose! God made you to be in relationship with him and he wants to empower you with purpose.
Because this is so important I have decided to give you a FREE reading from the Christian divorce recovery book Peace After Divorce.
Finding Purpose in Your Life
It’s in Christ that we find out […]