When the road to divorce became a reality, as well as when I was first divorced, church became a two-edged sword for me. It was hard to go alone. It was hard to sit alone. It was hard not to cry.
But, I went.
I went because hearing a message reminded me that God was near. Being with fellow believers reassured me that I was a part of something far greater than myself. And, the lyrics and sounds of the songs lifted my soul.
The real conflict was that I felt like I let God down even though I wasn’t the one who […]
For David it was subtle. People at his church didn’t come right out and say it, but he could feel the difference and see it in their eyes. They were more aloof. Because of his divorce he felt treated differently. He already felt like a failure so this undercurrent in his relationship with people at church was a reaffirmation that he was now stigmatized. He was perceived as a lower level Christian.
For Sarah it was much more direct. The words stabbed at her heart. She could no longer serve in certain areas of the church because she was divorced. She […]
It is Christmas Eve and my family will arrive shortly. I’ve been getting ready for our Christmas meal and visit for days (actually longer) and despite my best efforts I haven’t yet written this week’s blog post so I thought I’d share these personal thoughts with you.
I expect Christmas to be Merry this year and I feel very blessed. Fred is a wonderful husband and I have great bonus daughters and extended family.
But, Christmas hasn’t always been so joyful.
My first marriage fell apart just before Christmas years ago. It hurt so much that I though Christmas would always carry that […]
My child, don’t lose sight of common sense and discernment. Hang on to them, for they will refresh your soul. Proverbs 3:21:22 NLT
Divorce ended my fairy-tale marriage,” said Susan. “How can I live without him?”
My wife turned into Darth Vader,” said Rusty. “An evil one breathing down my neck. I hate her.”
So, was Susan’s marriage really to a perfect prince or was she looking at her husband through Cinderella eyes? Had Rusty’s wife really gone the way of pure evil or were the difficult dynamics of divorce coloring his view?
By focusing her thoughts on her losses, Susan […]
Yesterday I had to have an MRI on my neck. If you’ve ever had an MRI you know it is an eerie experience. Being a bit claustrophobic, I found it helpful to keep my eyes closed as they slid me into the narrow tube.
Thank goodness the technician gave me a call button and talked to me through the speakers in the tube between tests. Okay, maybe I’m a wimp but lying still in a magnetic tube with loud boom, boom, boom, and cling, cling, cling sounds for 15 minutes is an intense and uneasy experience. I sang repeated verses of […]
Sharon writes to share her story.
Before I started dating my husband I knew I was going to marry him. We dated 6 months and was married 14 yrs and have 3 children. I knew our marriage wasn’t going to survive. I became a co-dependent–always trying to find a solution to make it work and last.
I saw the same pattern happening over and over again. I wanted more out of life. I wanted more from my marriage. I wanted more. I knew that he couldn’t give me what it was I was longing for.
I thought I was going crazy listening […]
Did you ever read the book The Scarlet Letter? In the book, the lead character had to wear a big scarlet “A” because she was an adulterer. Labeled for life. Even her tombstone was marked with a scarlet “A.”
Adultery does not have to be involved for people who are going through divorce to feel like there’s a big “D” on their chest screaming “DIVORCED”. As a Christian who has experienced divorce, I know this can be particularly true for people of faith who are aware that God intends for marriage to last a lifetime.
I never wanted to be divorced. Even […]