You may not realize you’re doing it. Maybe you are, maybe you aren’t. Yet with the emotions of divorce people can easily slip into a dangerous pattern. So I encourage you to ask yourself, “Do I ever use my children to get back at or manipulate my ex-spouse?
It can go something like this, “No you cannot go to dinner with your dad. He’s late with his child-support payment again.” Or, “If you want to take them to the mountains this weekend, I’ll need you to return my lawnmower.” Perhaps you make a decision that is rooted in a resentment, such […]
Sharon feels she is doing okay with her divorce but she is beside herself over her husband’s neglect of their children. Conner says his biggest struggle is seeing how his wife’s leaving has hurt their children. “I’ll never forgive her for what she did to them by deserting them,” he says.
What do you do? You see your children saddened by their other parent’s absence. It breaks your heart but no matter what you say to your ex, things don’t change. Or maybe the other parent is totally absent.
It feels like a no-win situation. You know […]