Running around in your head are all the conversations you have with yourself—your thoughts. These are perhaps the most important conversations you ever have. Why? Because your thoughts color how you perceive the world and therefore loom large in determining how you deal with your divorce.
Your thoughts about separation and divorce, being single, your ex, the circumstances related to your divorce, and even your thoughts about God have a monumental impact on your ability to heal from divorce. Thoughts can limit you or set you on a positive course. Think about it. In fact, think about your thinking.
Are your thoughts moving you forward or holding you back?
Here are four examples to consider:
- Do you think you can heal from divorce? If so, you have a much better chance of healing than if you don’t believe you can heal.
- Do you think you can be a good single parent? Then you probably will. If you think single parenting is going to be very hard, then you are more likely to struggle.
- Do you spend your time thinking about being lonely or do you spend your time using your thoughts to work on rediscovering yourself as a single person?
- Do you shy away from God because you feel like a failure or do you seek out God’s love and support because you believe God has compassion for you in your pain?
What thoughts do you have that are holding you back from healing from divorce? Think about it. Become aware of those thoughts and replace them with healing thoughts.
By the Way, God does have compassion for you in your pain. It is right there in the Bible. “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18 NIV)
For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.
Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV)
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