Okay, so your ex did you wrong. If only your ex had been true. If only your ex had not lied. If only your ex had not….
But your ex did.
One of the hard things about divorce is coming to terms with the truth of the situation and not letting it make you bitter for the rest of your life. It is normal to get angry, to feel hurt, and even to feel resentment when you’ve just been hurt or deceived. We blame those we feel are responsible for our hurt. Those emotions are a part of the “human” that God put in us.
For a while those emotions help us to protect ourselves from further hurt. They cause us to be cautious. They can help us to process our reality. We need to allow ourselves to feel those feelings and then to work through those feelings so that we can get past them.
Yet so many people get stuck in a cycle of blame. They are unhappy with how they’ve been treated. They focus their thoughts on how they’ve been done wrong and in doing so, they feed their own anger. When they feed their anger, they become more victimized and increasingly unhappy. They hurt themselves.
The challenge is to experience and process your emotions without getting stuck. Why ruin your own life with anger, blame, and frustration because of someone else? If you stay stuck in anger and blame you are allowing your ex to continue to hurt you. Why would you do that?
Make a choice to feel your emotions, work through them, and then move past them. You decide if you want to live in hurt forever. You decide if you want to move past the hurt. Decide to heal. Decide to identify and take the steps needed to make it happen. Decide to find the resources you need for support and guidance.
A healing relationship with Christ is important. It can help you to re-frame your divorce experiences. Furthermore, God has placed many resources in this world to help you heal from divorce. It is our prayer that After Divorce Ministries, LLC’s resources will be among those that help support you in your journey. God bless you.
Christian Thought for Today:
A righteous man may have many troubles,
but the Lord delivers him from them all…
Psalm 34:19 NIV
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