Click. Gone. The unwanted email instantly deleted.
When your spouse leaves, either physically or psychologically, you can feel much the same-unwanted, unvalued, and deleted. The departure may be sudden and leave you reeling and wondering if you are still lovable. Or, you may have experienced a long fading loss of love and attention. Any of these experiences can leave you questioning your worth.
Such rejection is a tough pill to swallow. It can take a while of constantly re-framing your experience to overcome the depth of rejection that occurs when the person you’ve pledged your life to rejects you.
Let me tell you right now that your worth is not determined by the actions of another person.
“That someone no longer loves you does not mean that you are not lovable. That some no longer values you does not mean that you are not valuable. The God of all creation loves and values you very much.”
…From my book, Peace After Divorce
Believe it. You are valuable. Believe in yourself. Knowing you are worthy is fundamental to healing from divorce.
Work on your own mindset about yourself. Know you are a very valuable person. Know that God loves you.
Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you?
1 Corinthians 3:16