How do you forget the betrayal of your marriage vows or hurtful things that were said? How do you forgive someone for ceasing to love you and failing to try to make your marriage work? How do you forgive the pains of divorce?
Painful memories may grow dimmer over time but you can’t make the past un-happen. It is unrealistic to expect to truly forget the hurtful things you have experienced. However, you can change the emotions you feel when those painful memories surface.
You can forgive. Don’t click away now, you’re getting to the good part.
Forgiveness is often misunderstood. Here are five things you need to know about forgiveness:
- Forgiveness isn’t about the other person. Forgiveness is about you. Forgiveness is a choice to clear the bitterness out of your heart. Forgiveness is between you and God.
- Forgiveness doesn’t require reconciliation. You can forgive in your heart without subjecting yourself to further mistreatment from someone.
- Forgiveness isn’t a stamp of approval. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what the other person has done is okay.
- Forgiveness brings you closer to God. Forgiveness clears your heart of negative clutter and opens you to a closer positive relationship with God.
- Forgiveness isn’t a one time event. Forgiveness has to be done over and over again in your own mind until you clear out the bitterness. It takes time and a commitment to let go of resentment and anger.
Forgiveness starts with a choice you make to work on healing your own pain with God’s help. It happens in small steps. Forgiveness helps you to heal.
Are you ready to relieve yourself of bitterness? Ask God to walk with you daily on the journey of forgiveness. You’ll be glad you did.
Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us. And lead us not into temptation.” Luke 11:4
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