Dealing with someone who has no empathy for you unless it is to their own advantage isn’t a piece of cake. And, when that person has an inflated sense of themselves, and demands to be treated with unquestioned respect and preference, you may be dealing with someone with narcissistic personality disorder. Your challenges are likely to escalate when you are divorcing or trying to co-parent after divorce.
Here are some of the traits of a person with narcissistic personality disorder:
- A lack of empathy for others (unless there is an ulterior motive.)
- A need to be admired and a great sensitivity to criticism.
- An inflated sense of self-worth and importance.
- An expectation that they should be treated specially.
- A great sensitivity to not being treated as desired.
- A tendency to exploit others.
- A tendency to become explosive or depressed if they feel defeated or judged.
How do you deal with someone with narcissistic personality disorder?
How much better to get wisdom than gold, to choose understanding rather than silver! Proverbs 16:16 NIV
Dealing with a narcissist isn’t easy but you can learn strategies that help. Wendy Behary’s book,
Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one—so ignoring them isn’t really a practical solution. They’re frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them.
Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist’s defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You’ll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it’s sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you’ll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you’ll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist.
This book will help you learn to meet your own needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. This new edition also includes new chapters on dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction.
Finally, you’ll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it’s time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.
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