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Topic: Heal Emotions

When Divorce Does Crazy Things to Your Heart

When Divorce Does Crazy Things to Your Heart

All night long on my bed, I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him.  I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves.  So I looked for him but did not find him.

Song of Songs 3: 1-2 (NIV)

 

These words from Song of Songs (Song of Solomon) are about love not divorce.  Yet, I think they say so much.  Love makes the heart do both wonderful as well as crazy things.

When we lose […]

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What to do about Divorce Loneliness

What to do about Divorce Loneliness

No matter what brought your marriage to an end, it hurts to have lost love. Not only that, but learning to face every day single is often lonely.  It’s normal to feel like you would like someone new  to fill the void and help you feel whole again.

Yet, searching for romance out of loneliness leaves you more vulnerable to accepting a relationship with the wrong person.  Plus, if you take old wounds into a new relationship it increases the likelihood that you’ll be hurt again. Nobody wants that.

Wanting to love and be loved is normal.  Yet, you can put yourself […]

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You’re Worth More than Divorce Would Have You Believe

I remember the sinking feeling that came with divorce. It was all so emotionally complicated. I was a pretty self-confident person and then suddenly I wasn’t.

How could I be worth anything if my spouse didn’t value me?

This is one of the landmines of divorce. If the one who promised to love you forever now abandons you, lies to you, is unfaithful, abuses you physically or emotionally, or neglects you, it’s easy to decide you must be worthless.

Wrong.

It’s a natural reaction, but it isn’t true. You’re worth more than that. Lots […]

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The Wicked Twist of Divorce Karma

Over the years I’ve often heard people hoping that karma catches up with their ex spouse. I get that because hurt, especially the deep hurt of infidelity and divorce, is a rotten feeling.  And, when you’ve been so betrayed and broken by another person, it’s only natural to want to see that person get their due. 

You want someone to make them pay for all the hurt they caused you. You certainly don’t want to see the person who hurt you now living a happy life. That just feels so very wrong.

The problem is that the desire […]

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Battling the Fears of Divorce

Battling the Fears of Divorce

Fear is perhaps the most prevailing emotion associated with divorce.   Fear of change,  fear of the future, fear of being alone, fears for your children, and the list goes on.  Fear rattles your cage and makes you desperate for a sense of security.

Divorce gives us plenty of reasons to fear.  Fear is a brutal master.

Battling Fear

So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves.  Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as his own children.  Now we call him, ‘Abba, Father.’ For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s […]

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7 Ways to Stifle Healing from Divorce

7 Ways to Stifle Healing from Divorce

Yikes! A few years ago I broke my foot. Suddenly my plans for the next several weeks were brought to a halt. Okay, you’re hearing about my broken bone situation because it pales in comparison to all the ways divorce can bring abrupt and prolonged changes to a person’s life.

Divorce slams the brakes on the dreams you had when you got married. Divorce shifts your now and your future in a new direction. You may find yourself overwhelmed with change.

Life may feel crazy for a while which is normal when your life faces a huge change of course. […]

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How Do I Learn to Trust Anyone Again after Divorce or Betrayal?

How Do I Learn to Trust Anyone Again after Divorce or Betrayal?

What a great question. The ability to trust is so often a casualty of divorce, at least for a while. I mean, after you’ve been betrayed in one way or another, it’s normal to become afraid to take chances with your heart. The deeper the betrayal, the harder it is to learn to trust. And, that fear of being hurt again can make you not trust anyone.

Start with Yourself

I think the first challenge is beginning to trust yourself again. You may start to wonder if you can make good judgement calls about who to trust. After all, you trusted someone […]

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Divorce Doesn’t Make You a Failure!

Divorce Doesn’t Make You a Failure!

For me one of the worse things about separation and divorce was feeling like I failed. Marriage means so much to me.  Yet, I felt like I failed my marriage, failed my vows, failed myself, failed my family, and failed God.  I felt lower than I had ever felt in my life.  Do you find yourself feeling that way?

For Christians marriage is more than a legal arrangement, it is a covenant. Feelings of failure when a marriage ends can be overwhelming.

But here’s the kicker…If you allow yourself to go through life seeing yourself as […]

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