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Topic: Christian Faith and Divorce

Where is God? Did He Leave Me Because of Divorce?

Where is God?  Did He Leave Me Because of Divorce?

No.  God doesn’t leave us.  God is there. God is with you, right now.

But, I understand the feeling because there were times when my marriage was ending that I too found it hard to feel God’s presence.

But, God was there. 

I think we know divorce isn’t in God’s plan and that knowledge hangs in our heads and muddles our spirits. We assume God is mad at us or we feel guilty for divorce even when it isn’t what we would choose. If you’ve made mistakes, ask God for forgiveness. Know that he is full of mercy and grace. He wants […]

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Separation and Divorce: Surviving the Loneliness of Your Nights

Separation and Divorce: Surviving the Loneliness of Your Nights

Arise, cry out in the night, as the watches of the night begin; pour out your heart like water in the presence of the Lord. Lift up your hands to him….” Lamentations 2:19

The nights can be the worse. Loneliness settles in as darkness falls. The losses and uncertainties of divorce become magnified as our bodies tire and our minds grow weary from the day.

It’s only human.

It’s the perfect time to pour out our hearts to God. When our hearts are brimming with grief and fear we can unload those daunting emotions on our Heavenly Father. We can lift our hands […]

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What’s Easter Got to Do with Divorce Recovery?

What’s Easter Got to Do with Divorce Recovery?

This Sunday is Easter. It’s an amazing time to focus on the power of God. Not only that, it’s a wonderful time to be reminded of just how very special you are to the Creator of all the universe.

Yes, you!

God loves you enough to send his only son to die for your sins. That means He loves you enough to take your place. To wash you clean with his own blood. Think about that.

Wow.

Jesus proved that there is life after death. And, he tells you that he will give life after death to you too. Now that’s some serious power […]

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Seeking God’s Direction for How to Deal with Divorce?

Divorce floods our lives with the need to cope with many changes.  It can be overwhelming.  Even if you’re not a praying person normally you may find yourself driven to seek God’s guidance on things that you just don’t know how to handle yourself.  Prayer is a powerful thing.

God, do I do this or that?

I know that some times when I get hung up in looking for an answer I realize that in my prayer of “do I do this, or do I do that” I end up giving God limited options.  Do you?

God’s possibilities are much bigger than that.

Divorce […]

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Can Divorced Christians Get Married?

Can Divorced Christians Get Married?

I’ve had a lot of questions recently about whether or not Christians are allowed to get married once they have been divorced.  If you’re a believer this can be a serious concern even if divorce wasn’t your idea.  If you want to know what your church teaches you’ll have to talk with your pastor because different churches do teach different things.  Actually, that’s even more reason for me to write this post.

If Christian churches can vary in what they teach on this topic, maybe our best answer lies in our conversations with God.  Whether you should remarry and whether remarrying […]

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Christians and Divorce

Christians and Divorce

You know God means for marriage to last forever.  You know your marriage has fallen short of God’s perfect plan. Yet, here you are looking your own divorce square in the face. It’s a gut wrenching experience. Worse yet, you may be getting grief from fellow Christians who don’t understand what you’re going through at all.

Here are three things I want to be sure you know:

God still loves you!
Your identity is in Christ not your marital status.
God still offers you salvation and hope.

Building your relationship with God is fundamental to taking charge of your life again. Choosing to seek God […]

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Why Settle for a Blue Christmas?

Why Settle for a Blue Christmas?

Elvis Presley recorded the classic song Blue Christmas in 1957. That’s a long time ago for a tune that is still on the radio. I imagine you’re familiar with its lyrics of, “I’ll have a blue Christmas without you.” The song hits home for anyone who faces Christmas after losing a love.

And so it goes with divorce. Christmas highlights our losses and reinforces our sense of loneliness. Christmases impacted by divorce are subject to being blue.

The First Christmas

My separation occurred about two weeks before Christmas. I must admit, I felt like decking something but it wasn’t the halls. Anger, rejection, […]

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How to Talk with God about Divorce

How to Talk with God about Divorce

And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests.  With this in mind, be alert and always keep praying for the Lord’s people.

Ephesians 6:18 NIV

Prayer is that is amazingly powerful in so many ways.  Talk with God simply, sincerely, and respectfully. You don’t need fancy words. Realize that nobody, including you, can be good enough to merit God’s love, but he gives it to you anyway.

Clear the air by asking God for forgiveness and by forgiving those who have offended you. Thank God for his goodness and for loving you. […]

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Divorce: Have I Lost Favor with God?

Divorce: Have I Lost Favor with God?

I never consciously thought about it until now.  But, deep in my heart I realize I’ve been wondering if my divorce lowers me in God’s eyes.  I feel like a failure so surely God must see me as a failure too.”

As a Christian, you know that divorce is not what God wants for your marriage. Divorce is not to be taken lightly.  Marriages are designed by God as a life-time covenant.

But, do you need to hang your head around God?  Are you second-rate in his eyes?  Does he frown when he looks your way?

I contend that God’s love for you […]

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When Faith Falls Prey to the Despair of Divorce

Carol found out her husband was involved with another woman. The affair crushed her to the core. When she confronted him. He said he wanted a divorce.

Carol’s marriage of 27 years collapsed around her. She struggled to make sense of it. She wept from her soul with a sense of total helplessness.

Despair left her unable to form the words to pray. God seemed so far away. She sunk deeper into desperation.

At times like these we need to borrow somebody else’s faith. That’s right, borrow faith.

The ability to borrow faith is one of the […]

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