I’ve had a lot of questions recently about whether or not Christians are allowed to get married once they have been divorced. If you’re a believer this can be a serious concern even if divorce wasn’t your idea. If you want to know what your church teaches you’ll have to talk with your pastor because different churches do teach different things. Actually, that’s even more reason for me to write this post.
If Christian churches can vary in what they teach on this topic, maybe our best answer lies in our conversations with God. Whether you should remarry and whether remarrying […]
I have come into the world as a light,
so that no one who believes in me should stay in darkness.
John 12:46 NIV
“I had just given birth to our first child,” says Roseanne. “I was still in the
hospital when in walked my husband saying he wanted a divorce.”
In an instant the darkness of divorce fell on Roseanne. Sometimes the end of a marriage comes like that. For others the darkness of divorce seeps in slowly as a marriage crumbles and fades.
Yes, having your marriage fail hurts, but you don’t have to stay in the […]
Candy hearts, greeting cards, and advertisements…it’s hard to put on blinders to Valentine’s Day. From mid-January to mid-February reminders are everywhere. Love is in the air.
When you’re separated or divorced Valentine’s Day can be hard to take. All the brouhaha about that special someone reminds you that you are alone. It can be tough.
So, how do you re-frame Valentine’s Day to make it a good thing when you’re hurting from lost love? How do you put a smile on your face when you wish you had someone special in your life but you don’t now? How do you survive […]
Forget all those New Year’s resolutions that you’ll never keep. Save all your focus for the big one. You’re worth it you know.
This resolution has huge pay-offs. It’s the heart of a better year so make it your priority. “What?” you say. Here it is…
Resolve to keep divorce from killing your spirit this year.
There it is, big as day—a resolution worth keeping. A life-giving resolution. A resolution for your life today and every day. A resolution that takes intention but that reaps a pot of emotional gold.
Protect Your Spirit
Become committed to the vitality of your spirit. Have confidence in […]
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Divorce can be lonely. You may feel like no one really understands what you are going through. Worse yet, you may feel like nobody really cares. Even God may seem far away.
It’s tough and the pain is so personal.
The mere words of others can seem trite and shallow even when they are intended to comfort. You need the support of those who really get it. You need reinforcements to help you feel like you are not so alone and to help you see that the pain you feel can be healed. You need reassurance that while the scars may linger, […]
Your chest literally hurts from the heartbreak. Your doctor can find no physical problem. But, inside you know it is likely the stress and strain of what has happened to your marriage.
He’s gone.* He’s found someone else and has made it clear he isn’t coming back. As much as you want to hate him, you still love him. You wonder why.
Finding out someone cheated on you doesn’t just wipe away your love instantly when you’ve loved deeply.
It’s normal for you to hurt under these circumstances. When you’ve worked and prayed to save your marriage and it still fails it is […]
You know God means for marriage to last forever. You know your marriage has fallen short of God’s perfect plan. Yet, here you are looking your own divorce square in the face. It’s a gut wrenching experience. Worse yet, you may be getting grief from fellow Christians who don’t understand what you’re going through at all.
Here are three things I want to be sure you know:
God still loves you!
Your identity is in Christ not your marital status.
God still offers you salvation and hope.
Building your relationship with God is fundamental to taking charge of your life again. Choosing to seek God […]
The person who asked this question could be really asking many things.
When will I stop hurting?
When will I get closure?
When will I fall in love again?
When will I feel joy again?
When will someone enter my life and make everything okay?
But, the answer to the question “When will my new life begin?” is now.
You may not be where you want to be now but this is where your new life has its roots. You have the option to either stay stuck where you are, or to tap into your ability to make prayerful choices that will move you on […]
Having your marriage fail is hard in so many ways it can be overwhelming. You have a lot to deal with emotionally, spiritually, and logistically. And, if you have children my guess is that you are also worried about how they will be, or have been, affected.
No wonder. You know that kids are always the victims of divorce. Divorce happens whether they like it or not. It changes their lives.
Yet, there are many things you can do to help your children cope with divorce.
I want to share a post with you from a blog called Thoughts in Progress. There Mason […]