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When Divorce Does Crazy Things to Your Heart

When Divorce Does Crazy Things to Your Heart

All night long on my bed, I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him.  I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves.  So I looked for him but did not find him.

Song of Songs 3: 1-2 (NIV)

 

These words from Song of Songs (Song of Solomon) are about love not divorce.  Yet, I think they say so much.  Love makes the heart do both wonderful as well as crazy things.

When we lose […]

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What to do about Divorce Loneliness

What to do about Divorce Loneliness

No matter what brought your marriage to an end, it hurts to have lost love. Not only that, but learning to face every day single is often lonely.  It’s normal to feel like you would like someone new  to fill the void and help you feel whole again.

Yet, searching for romance out of loneliness leaves you more vulnerable to accepting a relationship with the wrong person.  Plus, if you take old wounds into a new relationship it increases the likelihood that you’ll be hurt again. Nobody wants that.

Wanting to love and be loved is normal.  Yet, you can put yourself […]

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Co-parenting with a Bad Role Model

Co-parenting with a Bad Role Model

When you want your children to grow up with strong Christian values but their other parent isn’t on board it can be more than infuriating. It can be a dilemma. It’s especially a dilemma if your children’s other parent is an active influence in their lives.

In an ideal world, divorced parents work together for the good of their children. But, the words divorce and ideal aren’t a natural match. And, if your ex has committed adultery, has an addiction problem, or lacks integrity, your children are subject to have those influences in their lives.

No wonder you’re concerned.

On the one hand, […]

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Life after Divorce – Renewing Your Spirit

Life after Divorce – Renewing Your Spirit

When the road to divorce became a reality, as well as when I was first divorced, church became a two-edged sword for me. It was hard to go alone. It was hard to sit alone. It was hard not to cry.

But, I went.

I went because hearing a message reminded me that God was near. Being with fellow believers reassured me that I was a part of something far greater than myself. And, the lyrics and sounds of the songs lifted my soul.

The real conflict was that I felt like I let God down even though I wasn’t the one who […]

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You’re Worth More than Divorce Would Have You Believe

I remember the sinking feeling that came with divorce. It was all so emotionally complicated. I was a pretty self-confident person and then suddenly I wasn’t.

How could I be worth anything if my spouse didn’t value me?

This is one of the landmines of divorce. If the one who promised to love you forever now abandons you, lies to you, is unfaithful, abuses you physically or emotionally, or neglects you, it’s easy to decide you must be worthless.

Wrong.

It’s a natural reaction, but it isn’t true. You’re worth more than that. Lots […]

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The Wicked Twist of Divorce Karma

Over the years I’ve often heard people hoping that karma catches up with their ex spouse. I get that because hurt, especially the deep hurt of infidelity and divorce, is a rotten feeling.  And, when you’ve been so betrayed and broken by another person, it’s only natural to want to see that person get their due. 

You want someone to make them pay for all the hurt they caused you. You certainly don’t want to see the person who hurt you now living a happy life. That just feels so very wrong.

The problem is that the desire […]

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Accepting Divorce Shows a Lack of Faith…Or Does It?

Accepting Divorce Shows a Lack of Faith…Or Does It?

4 Myths about Divorce that Can Hurt Your Church – Part 4 of 4 in the Series

We know God can do immeasurably more than we hope or imagine. We know it because we’ve lived it. So, when a person is facing divorce, our natural faith-driven instinct is to highlight this truth of the Christian faith. Because we know the power of God, we can be quick to assume that the person who is accepting divorce as their reality simply hasn’t given God time to work, or believed hard enough in God’s faithfulness.

You don’t have enough faith, we think or say.

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Are Divorced People Subpar Christians?

Are Divorced People Subpar Christians?

For David it was subtle. People at his church didn’t come right out and say it, but he could feel the difference and see it in their eyes. They were more aloof. Because of his divorce he felt treated differently. He already felt like a failure so this undercurrent in his relationship with people at church was a reaffirmation that he was now stigmatized. He was perceived as a lower level Christian.

For Sarah it was much more direct. The words stabbed at her heart. She could no longer serve in certain areas of the church because she was divorced. She […]

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