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Is Your Ex or Soon-to-be-Ex Treating You Poorly?

Is Your Ex or Soon-to-be-Ex Treating You Poorly?

Do not be fooled. You cannot fool God. A man will get back whatever he plants! If a man does things to please his sinful old self, his soul will be lost.  If a man does things to please the Holy Spirit, he will have life that lasts forever.

Galatians 6:7-8 (NLV)

If you’re being mistreated by your ex or soon-to-be ex you may read this scripture and think, well at least he (or she) will get what he deserves in the end. But, this really isn’t a scripture about revenge.

Consider this…

Galatians […]

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Finding Power to Heal from Divorce

Finding Power to Heal from Divorce

Yesterday we had a bad storm and lost power.  As the sun settled in the sky and the room darkened I realized just how very dependent on electricity I am.  The pizza I had just prepared was quickly placed in the oven in the hopes that the oven would stay hot enough to cook it.  I had work to do but my laptop battery was fading quickly. There was no Internet anyway.  I shut down my phone so its battery would still have some life if I really needed it.  Without power, I was left in the dark trying to […]

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What’s Easter Got to Do with Divorce Recovery?

What’s Easter Got to Do with Divorce Recovery?

This Sunday is Easter. It’s an amazing time to focus on the power of God. Not only that, it’s a wonderful time to be reminded of just how very special you are to the Creator of all the universe.

Yes, you!

God loves you enough to send his only son to die for your sins. That means He loves you enough to take your place. To wash you clean with his own blood. Think about that.

Wow.

Jesus proved that there is life after death. And, he tells you that he will give life after death to you too. Now that’s some serious power […]

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Seeking God’s Direction for How to Deal with Divorce?

Divorce floods our lives with the need to cope with many changes.  It can be overwhelming.  Even if you’re not a praying person normally you may find yourself driven to seek God’s guidance on things that you just don’t know how to handle yourself.  Prayer is a powerful thing.

God, do I do this or that?

I know that some times when I get hung up in looking for an answer I realize that in my prayer of “do I do this, or do I do that” I end up giving God limited options.  Do you?

God’s possibilities are much bigger than that.

Divorce […]

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Can Divorced Christians Get Married?

Can Divorced Christians Get Married?

I’ve had a lot of questions recently about whether or not Christians are allowed to get married once they have been divorced.  If you’re a believer this can be a serious concern even if divorce wasn’t your idea.  If you want to know what your church teaches you’ll have to talk with your pastor because different churches do teach different things.  Actually, that’s even more reason for me to write this post.

If Christian churches can vary in what they teach on this topic, maybe our best answer lies in our conversations with God.  Whether you should remarry and whether remarrying […]

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Putting the Light Back in Your Heart when a Marriage Ends

Putting the Light Back in Your Heart when a Marriage Ends

I have come into the world as a light,
so that no one who believes in me should stay in darkness.
John 12:46 NIV

“I had just given birth to our first child,” says Roseanne. “I was still in the
hospital when in walked my husband saying he wanted a divorce.”

In an instant the darkness of divorce fell on Roseanne. Sometimes the end of a marriage comes like that. For others the darkness of divorce seeps in slowly as a marriage crumbles and fades.

Yes, having your marriage fail hurts, but you don’t have to stay in the […]

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10 Ways to Survive Valentine’s Day when You’re Divorced or Separated

10 Ways to Survive Valentine’s Day when You’re Divorced or Separated

Candy hearts, greeting cards, and advertisements…it’s hard to put on blinders to Valentine’s Day. From mid-January to mid-February reminders are everywhere. Love is in the air.

When you’re separated or divorced Valentine’s Day can be hard to take. All the brouhaha about that special someone reminds you that you are alone. It can be tough.

The Challenge

So, how do you re-frame Valentine’s Day to make it a good thing when you’re hurting from lost love? How do you put a smile on your face when you wish you had someone special in your life but you don’t now? How do you survive […]

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One New Year’s Resolution to Keep

One New Year’s Resolution to Keep

Forget all those New Year’s resolutions that you’ll never keep. Save all your focus for the big one. You’re worth it you know.

This resolution has huge pay-offs. It’s the heart of a better year so make it your priority. “What?” you say. Here it is…

Resolve to keep divorce from killing your spirit this year.

There it is, big as day—a resolution worth keeping. A life-giving resolution. A resolution for your life today and every day. A resolution that takes intention but that reaps a pot of emotional gold.

But how?

Protect Your Spirit

Become committed to the vitality of your spirit. Have confidence in […]

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Renee Smith Ettline
Founder, After Divorce Ministries, LLC
Author, Peace after Divorce book and group curriculum for churches and other books

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When Divorce Leaves You Feeling Helpless and Alone

When Divorce Leaves You Feeling Helpless and Alone

Divorce can be lonely.  You may feel like no one really understands what you are going through. Worse yet, you may feel like nobody really cares.   Even God may seem far away.

It’s tough and the pain is so personal.

The mere words of others can seem trite and shallow even when they are intended to comfort.  You need the support of those who really get it.  You need reinforcements to help you feel like you are not so alone and to help you see that the pain you feel can be healed.  You need reassurance that while the scars may linger, […]

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